Around here, I think half the time they hear me say, "No pickles" they hear, "Extra pickles" and pile it on. Gross.

I like pickles, just not on sandwiches or burgers.

Passive aggressiveness doesn't get you what you want. You have to assert what you want before you eat it. Also, maybe pick a better restaurant.

But don't be a Karen about it.

I'll send food back if it's made wrong, no big deal. It happens. When I was younger I worked in restaurants and have had steaks I was proud of sent back and have other food sent back that I either made incorrectly or the waitress wrote the order incorrectly.

"Shit happens".

Respect and understanding goes a long way regardless of what side of the coin you're on.